"So, when are you getting married?"

 *pic credit to quizony*

Assalamualaikum and hello everyone!

Alrightey singletons! 

The Hari Raya Aidilfitri holidays are already here. In few days there’ll be family gatherings, visiting family members from one house to another. 

Now, brace yourself! No, not for those scrumptious food, honey. Even before you are able to touch the ketupat, lemang, kuah kacang and lodeh on the table, you will have all the aunties and uncles (and even cousins!) asking you the million-dollar question: "So, when are you getting married?" 

Okay, let’s face this. I am at the age where woman should already be married. Worse, both of my baby sisters are married (now they get a new question "When are you having babies?") and I’m the only daughter left, so yeah, the question comes a lot more frequent than you can think of. I understand now that this question has become a norm in every culture, as even the Western culture does this. As I also watch a lot of K-Drama, I can also conclude that it happens over there as well. 

To be honest, I hate that question. I loathe it with a passion. 

I don’t quite understand why the question is even needed to be asked in the first place. Basically, if I were to get married, my father would only need to tell one of his sisters and poof! The whole extended family would know then. 

Yup, we have our own version of CNN, you know. 

Anyway, like I said, I loathe the question with a passion. Well, let’s face it, when you’re asked, the only answer you could provide is “InsyaAllah, bila dah jumpa jodoh,” (God’s willing, when I have met the right person). 
 And as usual, they would respond that I’m being picky. 

Ok people, I am being picky. I think I have the right to do that.

This is my whole life we’re talking about. If I were to marry this guy, he would be the person I shall devote myself to, he would be the father of my offspring, he would be the one to share my burden and he would be the person I shall love until after the day I die. Well, I can’t surely pick anyone on the street, can I? Or just marry the next guy who wants to befriend me. 

And I’m a Libra, I suck at making decision. I can’t even decide whether to get the blue or emerald green handbags and it’s been over a month of thinking now.  *sigh*

It’s not like I am allergic to the opposite gender, I do have acquaintances but you know, to feel those butterflies in the tummy and to have the chemistry only we both would have are just not there yet. 

And let’s talk about trust issues people. 

Oh God. There is nothing worse you can do as a human being than to give hopeless hope to the hopeful ones. Seriously guys, if you tell a girl you like her, we girls understand it as you like us, literally. So if we flirt back it means we also like you. It’s not anything Newton or Einstein. 

It’s pure human understanding. 

It is very wrong that you take her feelings on a fun carousel and then after a few months you announce you’re getting married..to another girl. 

At this moment, I usually would feel grateful I’m not marrying such guys. 

Me and my friends have been through this a couple of times and everytime we talk about it, we still couldn’t come up with any single reason as to why would a sane, educated human being act that way. It’s just very immature. 

Anyhow, going back to the issue of the million-dollar question, I believe when people ask you they are either concerned or just plain busybody. I’ll take that they’re usually concerned, especially the older family members. 

My parents recently told me that they pray they’d live a long, healthy life to be able to watch me get married. It was almost heartbreaking to hear that but it’s not like I don’t want to get married, God knows how I really want to have my own little family. HE knows well because I pour my heart out to HIM through my prayers, every single day. I believe in HIM and I want to believe that it’s not my time yet. HE probably wants me to enjoy what I’ve always dreamed of, which is travelling and other things that I love like spending time with my parents and sleep like a starfish in my bed. 

At loneliest times, I would just look at my glass half full –I have close family and friends, a great job and time for myself to travel, read novels, watch movies and like I said above, sleep like a starfish in my bed. 

Hence singletons, cherish the time you still have. Do things you have always wanted to do. Go join a marathon or climb a mountain or go travel and watch God's amazing creations around the world; you don’t get a job just to spend all the time at work and end up not living the life you’re working for. 

To the next person asking us the question, let’s just respond with “God is indeed the best planner, let’s leave it to HIM,” while stuffing batang buruk in your mouth. Trust me, they won’t dare asking you anything else after that. 

You're welcome.
 

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p/s To all Muslims, Happy Eid and to those not celebrating, happy holidays!

Here we go again...

Assalamualaikum and hello everyone, 

Wow this blog is left untouched for so long I could imagine spider webs all over! 

The last post was January last year. Yikes really took me too long to come back. 

A serious case of a writer’s block, huh? 

So many things happened over the past year and a half. I finally got the job I’ve been waiting for almost three years and it was a tad farther from my house but then there’s the saying “you win some, you lose some.” I have to travel almost 60km everyday back and forth but I’m okay with it since I could still live with my parents. 

I know some people can’t wait to move out of their parents’ house but I’ve been there, done that for a few years and now I just feel like it’s the best to live with my aging parents again. Of course they still nag me over curfew and stuff I do like the mess in my room, spending too much time surfing the Internet and the loud music, things like that, you know..but I get to cook for them, make sure they’re taking their medicine on time and a bit of exercise, go shopping and watch K-Drama together and above all, I just get to spend time with them. I tell you, I’m getting very emotional and melancholic easily these days. My good friend Als would say it’s a sign of aging. 

Damn but it’s true. 

You basically just start to appreciate things more as you grow older. Well, maybe others start early but I’m always 2000-late, you know. *lifts an eyebrow*

I have come to realize that if you’re going to live a long live happy, you’ve got to do happy things and let go of the unhappy ones. 

Shit happens every day –people jump in lanes on your way to work, the PC doesn’t work in the classroom, colleagues and office politics, yada yada yada..just get over it and move on. The whole world is already in a mess so let’s just buckle up and face everything without it affecting you so much. 

I have also learned that if you take everything ever so seriously, you’d end up miserable. 

Try to look at the glass half full instead. 

People jump in the line –be grateful you are at least in a car with the air-cond full blast. 

Your plan doesn’t work out in class –make up something, you’re in charge, the kids wouldn’t know. Colleagues and office politics –I’ve worked at 4 different places before so trust me, it happens at anywhere you work so just do the right things and they won’t be able to touch you. Keep your integrity intact. 

Bottom line is (you probably have heard of this), you have to love whatever you’re doing for you to be happy. 

If I had a bad day and it made me sad, I would just go and eat those colourful donuts because it put a smile on my face. Or listen to any Big Bang song because TOP’s voice always makes me weak in the knees. Or go home and watch “The Wheels on the Bus” on YouTube with my adorable 2yo nephew. 

Small things can really make a difference. You just have to pay more attention to them. 

I know I am beginning to sound like a 80yo grandma but this is all very true. Bad things happen but don’t forget that God is still blessing you –He woke you up today, some people didn’t get that chance.

With that being said (or written), I hope I could keep on writing and not continue somewhere in the next year. Will take this precious blog more seriously now. See you in a couple of days.

*InsyaAllah*