"So, when are you getting married?"

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Assalamualaikum and hello everyone!

Alrightey singletons! 

The Hari Raya Aidilfitri holidays are already here. In few days there’ll be family gatherings, visiting family members from one house to another. 

Now, brace yourself! No, not for those scrumptious food, honey. Even before you are able to touch the ketupat, lemang, kuah kacang and lodeh on the table, you will have all the aunties and uncles (and even cousins!) asking you the million-dollar question: "So, when are you getting married?" 

Okay, let’s face this. I am at the age where woman should already be married. Worse, both of my baby sisters are married (now they get a new question "When are you having babies?") and I’m the only daughter left, so yeah, the question comes a lot more frequent than you can think of. I understand now that this question has become a norm in every culture, as even the Western culture does this. As I also watch a lot of K-Drama, I can also conclude that it happens over there as well. 

To be honest, I hate that question. I loathe it with a passion. 

I don’t quite understand why the question is even needed to be asked in the first place. Basically, if I were to get married, my father would only need to tell one of his sisters and poof! The whole extended family would know then. 

Yup, we have our own version of CNN, you know. 

Anyway, like I said, I loathe the question with a passion. Well, let’s face it, when you’re asked, the only answer you could provide is “InsyaAllah, bila dah jumpa jodoh,” (God’s willing, when I have met the right person). 
 And as usual, they would respond that I’m being picky. 

Ok people, I am being picky. I think I have the right to do that.

This is my whole life we’re talking about. If I were to marry this guy, he would be the person I shall devote myself to, he would be the father of my offspring, he would be the one to share my burden and he would be the person I shall love until after the day I die. Well, I can’t surely pick anyone on the street, can I? Or just marry the next guy who wants to befriend me. 

And I’m a Libra, I suck at making decision. I can’t even decide whether to get the blue or emerald green handbags and it’s been over a month of thinking now.  *sigh*

It’s not like I am allergic to the opposite gender, I do have acquaintances but you know, to feel those butterflies in the tummy and to have the chemistry only we both would have are just not there yet. 

And let’s talk about trust issues people. 

Oh God. There is nothing worse you can do as a human being than to give hopeless hope to the hopeful ones. Seriously guys, if you tell a girl you like her, we girls understand it as you like us, literally. So if we flirt back it means we also like you. It’s not anything Newton or Einstein. 

It’s pure human understanding. 

It is very wrong that you take her feelings on a fun carousel and then after a few months you announce you’re getting married..to another girl. 

At this moment, I usually would feel grateful I’m not marrying such guys. 

Me and my friends have been through this a couple of times and everytime we talk about it, we still couldn’t come up with any single reason as to why would a sane, educated human being act that way. It’s just very immature. 

Anyhow, going back to the issue of the million-dollar question, I believe when people ask you they are either concerned or just plain busybody. I’ll take that they’re usually concerned, especially the older family members. 

My parents recently told me that they pray they’d live a long, healthy life to be able to watch me get married. It was almost heartbreaking to hear that but it’s not like I don’t want to get married, God knows how I really want to have my own little family. HE knows well because I pour my heart out to HIM through my prayers, every single day. I believe in HIM and I want to believe that it’s not my time yet. HE probably wants me to enjoy what I’ve always dreamed of, which is travelling and other things that I love like spending time with my parents and sleep like a starfish in my bed. 

At loneliest times, I would just look at my glass half full –I have close family and friends, a great job and time for myself to travel, read novels, watch movies and like I said above, sleep like a starfish in my bed. 

Hence singletons, cherish the time you still have. Do things you have always wanted to do. Go join a marathon or climb a mountain or go travel and watch God's amazing creations around the world; you don’t get a job just to spend all the time at work and end up not living the life you’re working for. 

To the next person asking us the question, let’s just respond with “God is indeed the best planner, let’s leave it to HIM,” while stuffing batang buruk in your mouth. Trust me, they won’t dare asking you anything else after that. 

You're welcome.
 

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p/s To all Muslims, Happy Eid and to those not celebrating, happy holidays!

future heartbreakers

 

*pic credit: ohkpop*

Awww this is super cute!

Korean child actor and actress,

Mason Moon & Min Ha.

Super adorable!

Look at Mason's eyes! Precious!

you and me..it's a possibility...

"Everytime I look at you..I wish you looked my way
And flash me that dazzling smile that really makes my day
But of course it's just a dream..a dream that won't come true
and for unrequited love I wrote this song for you
I always think of how it'd be..if we were together
You and me holding hands
(It's a dream)
I can picture it right now
You and me..it's a dream,
It's a possibility...

When I look out of my window

I hope you look up at me
If only you could read my heart
My love so true you'd see
How empty my life would be
If I don't have you
And for unrequited love I wrote this song for you...
..it's a dream... it's a Possibility..."

*Possibility by Intoxicated*

Unrequited love is nasty. 

There’s nothing I can do about it. 

So near yet so far. 

='(

i love you & you love me. the end.

Okay this ain't easy to write but I figured it's never easy to really talk about love.
People keep asking me “Why are you still single?”
To be honest, I have no idea how to answer that without being or sounding rude. Truthfully, do these people actually think that anyone on this planet earth would really want to be single and alone?
Like, seriously. Come on.
Unless you have someone you wanna match make with me, please, I beg you, please don’t ask me that particular question. It makes you sound stupid for asking me such question that you clearly know I don’t have the answer to it. Not to mention making me feel more depressed of not having the other half of me.
I know at my age (whatever) most of my friends are already married and become parents. My Facebook wall has sort of turned into some sort of which-is-the-cutest-baby-contest –smiling babies, crying babies, eating, puking, sleeping..even babies in those cute animal jumpsuits.
Please don’t get me wrong –I adore babies to the max.
Those who have left babies by the rubbish dump or abused babies are heartless species, even lower than animals.
Oh well, that is for God to punish and decide.

My point is, I’d love to love. Who doesn’t?
You have someone you can call without any reason; someone who would call you without any reason, asking silly questions, just because. Someone you can’t wait to wish ‘happy birthday’ and go all excited choosing what presents you should give, that particular someone you simply want to grow old with.
Nevertheless, that ‘someone’ is not easy to get. You can’t buy them at departmental stores (although I wish him to smell as good as the perfume counters), you won’t meet them at fun fair (like people in movies do, which is why it’s only in movies..duhh), you can’t wish upon a wishing star and hoping the next day he’d be kneeling down in your porch.
Even with all Seven Dragon Balls you can’t expect him to just appear out of nowhere because it doesn’t happen that way, or that easily.

I have friends who said I’m single because I’m being too choosy.
Okay, let me explain the real situation.
I choose because I simply have to choose.
Get real people, this is someone I wanna spend my whole life with. Someone I would whole-heartedly devote all my heart and might to, as a wife. I can’t marry off someone just because everyone else is married/ getting married, I am not ready to risk my life like that.
If I’d simply accept anyone, trust me, I’d have ended up with jerks, liars and so called nice guys. To tell the truth, I had a friend’s husband asking me out, telling me “not to tell my wife”. I know a guy who used to call me “sayang” and everything else and just once I said “no” to a dinner, next thing I know, he’s about to get married. There’s even a guy who said “he likes me for yeaaaaarrrs and would wait for me” but then he got engaged in less than a month after we went out together.
Had I not been choosy and careful, I might end up with one of these jerks. But then again, it’s either they are all real jerks or I was super stupid to fall for the tricks.
So basically it’s not that I’m not looking or trying, it just seems that I always fall for the wrong ones.
='(

Watching my friends all happy with their other halves, it does make me happy, honestly. I wish I can also be a part of those blessed moments but I guess my time hasn’t come yet.
They say good things come to those who wait. If this is true, then I’ll wait.
And pray hard.

So please, don’t ask me why I’m still single, it’s getting annoying. =P
Better ask me when am I gonna be a millionaire, which I have a definite answer to it:
“Definitely not today!”

Duhh!